How Nigerian Women Can Get Better Matches on a Dating App

"My inbox is full and none of it is serious."

If you've ever said that, you've noticed something real. Volume is not the problem. The problem is who the volume is made of. Women on dating apps often get more messages than they can read, and a depressing share of it is "hi", "you fine", or a request for your number in the first minute.

The fix isn't to get fewer messages. It's to change who sends them.

Your photos are the first filter

Use a clear recent picture with your face visible and a real smile. Add a full length shot, one doing something you love (cooking, travelling, reading, whatever is true), and maybe one with friends. Skip the heavy filters and the sunglasses in every frame. Men who want a real person respond to a real person. We have more on photos that get matches.

Let your bio do the sorting

Write what you actually want. Compare these two.

"Just here to see what's up."

"Nurse in Abuja. I love church on Sunday and cooking on Saturday. Looking for someone kind and honest who's ready for something real."

The second one scares off exactly the men you were hoping to avoid, and attracts the ones you want. It feels risky to be that direct. It works.

Use the voice answer

On MyPerson you can answer profile prompts in text, or record a 30 second voice answer. Try the voice. Warm, funny, you. Men remember a voice long after they forget a photo.

Set filters that match your life

Choose the state, age range and religion you want, and set intent to what you really want. If it's marriage, filter for people who also want marriage. That isn't being picky. It's being efficient with your time. Here's how Discover filters work.

Read the first message properly

• "Hi" with nothing else means little effort.
• A message that mentions something from your profile means he read it.
• A man who asks for your number or photos right away has shown you his plan.

You don't owe a reply to anyone. Block and report the ones who push, in two taps.

Move to a call early

A ten minute free voice or video call tells you more than two weeks of texting. Is he polite? Does he sound like his photos look? Does he treat you like a person? That is all you need to know at this stage.

Verify your own profile

A selfie and National ID check earns a badge. Serious men look for it, because they've been burned by fakes too. Verified women tend to get better conversations simply because people trust them faster.

Be around

Log in. Reply. Join a hangout or play a game with a match. Active profiles tend to be seen more. If you want a push, a profile boost shows you to more people for 30 minutes.

Short answers

How many photos? Four to six.

Should I message first? You can. If you're unsure, see whether to make the first move.

What's a good first message? One that shows he actually read your profile.