15 Questions Nigerian Women Can Ask to Know If He Is Serious
Fifteen simple questions that bring out what a man wants, how he lives and whether he is ready, without sounding like an interrogation.
You can spend six weeks guessing what a man wants. Or you can ask.
Most women are taught not to ask, in case they scare him away. But a man who runs from a simple question wasn't going to stay. Here are fifteen questions that won't sound like an interrogation if you ask them casually, over a call or a coffee, spaced over a few conversations.
About where he is in life
1. What are you looking for right now? Not "what are you looking for in a woman". Right now. 2. What does your week look like? You learn whether he works, how he spends his time, and whether you'd fit in. 3. Where do you see yourself in two years? Watch for plans that include a partner. 4. When was your last relationship, and how did it end? Listen for blame. Everyone's ex is crazy to him means something.
About character
5. How do you handle disagreements? Calm, loud, silent? The honest answer reveals a lot. 6. What do you do when you're angry? 7. Tell me about a time you apologised. Some people have never done it. 8. How do you treat people who can't do anything for you? Waiters, drivers, house help.
About family and values
9. How close are you to your family? Not good or bad, just useful. 10. What role does faith play in your life? Even if you don't share the same faith, you should know. 11. What do you want marriage to look like? Roles, children, where to live. 12. Do you want children, and how many?
About money and the future
13. How do you manage money? Not "how much do you earn". How he saves, spends and plans. 14. What's your view on a woman working after marriage? Better to hear it now. 15. What would make you walk away from a relationship? The answer shows his dealbreakers and your risks.
How to ask without scaring anyone
Spread them out. Share your own answers. Ask follow ups. And watch for consistency: does what he says on Tuesday match what he says on Friday?
If you want more on red flags, read 10 signs a Nigerian man is wasting your time and the financial red flags guide.
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On MyPerson members choose what they're looking for, so you can start with people whose intent matches yours. Profile prompts and voice answers give you hints before you start talking. And since calls are free, you can have these conversations by voice, which is much more revealing than texts.
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